My sister in law and her husband lost their nephew this week to an accident. A baby left in a draining tub for a few minutes. He was 3 months younger than Charlie. My sweet little Charlie. Their sweet little Kayj (pronounced Cage). So much hurt. Pain. Longing. Loss. Hope. Hope to see him again. To hug him again. To see his smile light up a room.
I know there is life after death. That we go on. That our spirits commune with others. That we are not alone. I have always known this. It speaks truth deep down to my soul. And that gives me hope. Purpose. Direction. I believe God puts us on Earth to learn a few things. Mostly love. And sometimes with that love comes pain. Sometimes unbelievable pain. When we are swallowed up in sorrow we are surrounded by love. Which is odd when you feel so incredibly alone. Love of perfect strangers who hear your story and connect. Love of community members who mourn when you mourn. Love of family who ache with loss. Love of a Father in Heaven who hears our pleas in a bathroom. To ease the burden. To send love and comfort.
I firmly believe that LOVE TRUMPS ALL. Even in pain and loss and suffering. As a high school sophomore I remember hearing about all the problems around the world and how simple it seemed that they could all be solved with love. And yet, I'm not cynical enough to discount that solution yet. Life is complicated. It's true. And Love? Love is powerful.
"To love another person is to see the face of God."
Hold those you love a little closer and be quick to forgive. We never know how much time we have with those we love. We might as well spend the time well. Spend the time loving each other. Dishes can wait. Laundry will be there.
Love to you all.
If you're at all interested in sending love to a family who could use it here is a little more info (courtesy of Facebook):
As many of you know, Tye and Laici Shumway lost their little boy Kayj last night in a tragic accident at their home. The Shumway's are fairly new to the Vernal area, having moved from Blanding, but in the short time they've been in our neighborhood, they have been such a blessing and we consider them dear friends. We can't imagine their heartache in letting Kayj return to his Heavenly Father. We feel lucky to have had the opportunity to know Kayj for a short time. He brought so much joy with his sweetness and stunningly handsome little face.
Unfortunately, the loss of Kayj is not the only thing the Shumway's are dealing with right now as Tye was laid off only a few days ago. That's why we have set up a Paypal account to assist the Shumway's with the expenses they are facing. If you would like to donate, please 1) go to paypal.com, 2) log in (or create an account to log in), 3) click on "Transfer", 4) click on "Send someone money", 5) enter "firstname.lastname@example.org" as the recipient, with your email as the sender, along with the amount you would like to donate. If you do not have a Paypal account, and do not wish to create one, we would be happy to arrange other means for you to assist.
If you'd like to help but don't want to do the paypal account- send me a comment with your email. No one sees the comments until I approve them and I'll keep things confidential.
Again, give someone a hug today. Spread love.